Part 1: Doing Time and Who are You, really?
-Finding yourself through reflection and time.
-Doing your time yourself and with your sub-personalities
Part 2: Winding road from childhood to prison
-Abuse, neglect, safety, molestation, shame, poverty, personal thoughts of self-worth, single parent
-Get in step with your inner child, address the suppressed guilt or issues by having a discussion with yourself at that age.
-Fallout from childhood wounding and how to start recovery. Be honest with yourself, have more discussions. Provide directions and love, words of encouragement.
-Anger and resentment, The Myth of Power. How do you use anger to make yourself feel comfortable being angry? Address anger as it happens and know why you do what you do.
I’m amazed at my triggers and even more about how I didn’t even know. This will be where I work the most while being in here. So many tactics to understand in a good way. Simply understanding the tricks to know that someone else’s anger doesn’t need to be mine, and knowing how to recognize it is ever so powerful.
-Grief: The silenced emotion. Incarceration needs a prisoner to grieve properly and then acceptance can happen. It will then reduce the stress as well as the anger. Honor the grief and learn to let go appropriately.
Part 3: Forgiving the neutral territory.
-See people as a “light” instead of a “lampshade.” Address your biases and prejudices that derive from anger and what you perceive about others. The ego always just part of the picture, then mistakes that part for a whole.
-Reframing your look at the world. Victim vs. Victim Mentality! Bad things happen to us all, but we can let go, forgive and then refuse to let is hold us hostage.
-Relaxation, learning to take life in stride. Breathing and relaxing techniques. Positive self-talk, self-suggestion, and visualization!
-Meditation, gain a true understanding of time-outs and the benefits.
Part 4: Restoring Dignity
-Face guilt, shame and the impact of the crime head on, without justification. This is the only way to self-forgiveness. You must take responsibility without excuses; only then can forgiveness begin.
-Self forgiveness= the heart of healing
1. Acknowledge the truth.
2. Take responsibility for what you’ve done.
3. Learn from the experience, acknowledge deeper feelings that motivated these behaviors.
4. Open your heart to yourself, give yourself a certain degree of compassion and be gentle.
5. Healing emotional wounds by heeling the inner calls for love in healthy and responsible ways.
6. Aligning with the self and affirming your fundamental goodness, through visualization and acts of selfless service.
7. Closure and acceptance of self- Become your own friend again! Write a letter of forgiveness to yourself and to a parent.
I’m looking into my future and starting the planning now of what I will be able to do in prison and then after release. Will put the negative people where they belong, on a shelf!
Finally, this is one of my daily reminders.
Prison, a Gift? – By Ralph
When all is lost, you have a chance to start again, anew.
What a gift indeed, to leave behind a life that was so blue.
A life of running from the pain, a pain that has no end.
What a gift in-need as you become your best and oldest friend.
Prison then is the Master’s way of calling you back home.
His gift is life, peace, and hope, to heal your deepest wounds.
So, you can accept this grace-full gift and rejoice with the angels above,
Or turn again and run away and reject the Master’s love.
My brothers, God is calling you. He has stripped you of foolish pride.
He has taken all the worldly things behind which you could hide.
You have been forgiven. So, give yourself a chance at life.
Give your heart a lift.
Know that God is with you, and prison is a gift.
Final thoughts- I shall appreciate this time and respect the use of it. I am forgiven and I have forgiven myself for this behavior that I refuse to let define me or my life. Great book!
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